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Proper table settings

What goes where on the table and which glasses go with what drinks

Real easy to remember, the etiquette experts tell us. The general rule with utensils is to start from the outside of your place setting, and work your way toward the service plate (the main meal plate): soup spoon first, then fish knife and fork, then service knife and fork.

When to start eating:

Despite what mother told you, culinary experts say you do not always have to wait for everyone to begin – start eating hot food when it is served. For cold foods or buffets, wait for the host to announce dinner and wait until the head guest starts dishing.

The correct table settings

Proper table setting for formal dinner

A B C D E
Serviette (napkin) Service plate Soup bowl on plate Bread & butter plate
with butter knife
Water glass
F G H I J
White wine Red wine Fish fork Dinner Fork Salad fork
K L M N
Service knife Fish knife Soup spoon Dessert spoon and cake fork

Note that it often is recommended that the salad fork (J) is placed to the left of the dinner fork (I). However, in this formal setting the dinner fork is placed to be used before the salad fork because it is suggested that the guest awaits the main meal before helping him/herself to the salad.

Foods you can get by hand:

1. Bread: break slices of bread, rolls and muffins in half or into small pieces by hand before buttering.

2. Bacon: if there’s fat on it, eat it with a knife and fork. If it is crisp, crumble it with a fork and eat with your fingers.

3. Finger meals: follow the cue of your host. If finger meals are offered on a platter, place them on your plate before putting them into your mouth.

4. Foods meant to be eaten by hand: corn on the cob, spareribs, lobster, clams and oysters on the half shell, chicken wings and bones (in informal situations), sandwiches, certain fruits, olives, celery, dry cakes and cookies.

Removing inedible items from your mouth:

1. Olive pits: drop delicately into your palm before putting them onto your plate.

2. Chicken bone: use your fork to return it to the plate.

3. Fish bones: remove with your fingers.

4. Bigger pieces: bigger bones or food you don’t appreciate you should surreptitiously spit into your serviette (napkin), so that you can keep it out of sight.

Which glasses go with what drinks

Wine connoisseurs agree that each type of wine needs a particular type of glass to bring out the distinctive

bouquet. Using a narrow glass for a rich Burgundy, for example, won’t allow enough room to swirl it around in, and it’s the swirl that brings out its bouquet. The glass also needs to taper properly toward the top so that it captures the bouquet yet allows for sipping. In general, the stem of a glass should be long enough to keep hands from touching the bowl, which can affect the wine’s temperature, and therefor its bouquet.

The proper glasses - courtesy of wineview.com

Water | Brandy | White wine | Pinor Noir/Burgundy | Sparkling wine | Red wine

a. Water: full body glass with short stem. Hold the glass by the stem to preserve its chill.

b. Brandy: brandy snifter. Roll the snifter between both hands and then cup it in one hand – warming the glass brings out the bouquet in brandy.

c. White wine: slightly smaller glass with wider bowl to capture the bouquet. Hold the glass by the stem to preserve its chill.

d. Burgundy Reds and Pinot Noirs: a wide bowl to bring out their complexity. The glass is slightly taller than the white wine glass.

e. Champagne: a narrow fluted glass, which reduces the wine’s surface area and keep the bubbles from dissipating.

f. Red wine: the bigger of the wine glasses. Hold the glass at the bottom of the bowl where it meets the stem.

Now that you have the correct table setting and the proper wine glasses, see which wines go best with what food, and then make sure you get the right person to share it with!

Did you know?

Wine is sold in tinted bottles because wine spoils when exposed to light. And the indentation at the bottom of the bottle strengthens the structure of the bottle but also is there to trap the sediments.

Recommend reading: The Art of the Table: A complete guide to Table Setting, Table Manners, and Tableware

View Comments to “Proper table settings”

  1. zeinab says:

    give me a break. u wuldnt finish eating until the next meal just trying to remember all this stuff lol

  2. barb says:

    why do you use alphabet for aniels on your utensiles

  3. Alana says:

    Thanks, that was helpful.

  4. Alyssa says:

    this is very helpful.. thank you.

  5. ariestherbagaub says:

    table setting is such a topic

  6. alyana says:

    thanks., i can really use it for my project.

  7. samm says:

    u have star power

  8. muhamad firdaus says:

    where to place appertizer fork?
    the course should be from outside to inside.
    why salad fork place inside?
    it shoud be a starter (appertizer)

  9. muhamad firdaus says:

    you will make things worse if you dont follow the rules.
    give them (waiter/ waitress) a break. they need to set up everything again and again? what a chaos if all guest do the same thing as you?

  10. muhamad firdaus says:

    so… up to you if you want to use number for that… maybe you can use a person name…. or maybe an animal?

  11. muhamad firdaus says:

    setting just use logic

  12. debster01 says:

    Are fringed napkins acceptable when setting table for formal luncheon

  13. megan says:

    table settings is a very prety part

  14. Consider Etiquette says:

    Article recommends: “spit into your serviette (napkin)…” Honestly, you should not be taking such a huge bite to have “bigger bones or food you don’t appreciate.” Start with taking a small bite; you should NEVER spit food into a cloth napkin. Nasty.

  15. Sofi_seyoum says:

    thx u saved me

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  17. Amy Birtwistle says:

    can someone please tell me if you are setting the table with only a side plate with a napkin on top along with your knife & fork on top of the napkin. Does it go on the right or the left?

  18. Msjolyn says:

    cno ka

  19. AlexandraM says:

    Eat out of a bag then. It will save the rest of us the time to have to deal with you…It is not that hard or difficult if you put your mind to it.

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